Abstract:
Immigrants--Canada; Social integration--Canada; Immigrants--Social conditions
Subjects:
Immigrants--Canada; Social integration--Canada; Immigrants--Social conditions
Subjects Facet:
Immigrants--Canada; Social integration--Canada; Immigrants--Social conditions
Creator:
王廣滇; Wang, Guangdian
Date:
1996-01-12
Date searchable:
1996-01-12
Date searchable:
1996-01-12
Genre:
articles
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articles
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Language:
Chinese
Language Facet:
Chinese
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Article from: World Journal（世界日報）
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Title-Alternative:
Report Two about the Impact of the Incident of Huang Jinzhou
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Keywords: Huang, Jinzhou
Location(s):
Taiwan; Canada
Location(s) Facet:
Taiwan; Canada
Transcript:
黃錦洲事件迴響系列報導之二 本報記者：王廣滇
先生留在台灣打拚當「空中飛人」
錯過陪伴孩子成長期 影響人格發展
生意上失意的黃錦洲，何以開槍射殺家人而後自殺？此間的人各有不同的猜測。但很多人相信，這或許說明了目前在台灣賺錢打拚，也有其高度的風險。有些丈夫在台灣爲事業打拚的太太們說，以往她們擔憂的只是她們在台灣打拚的丈夫，身邊是否會多了個女人，如今黃錦洲案的發生，使她們心頭又再多了一重新的負擔。
很多太太們想到，在此時期，她們該讓夫婿繼續在台灣爲事業打拚呢？還是該讓他們在台灣「見好就收」，回到加拿大來享受團圓之樂？
一位早期的「空中飛人」說，以往他在太平洋兩岸曾一共飛了八年，他深知「空中飛人」之苦。辦好移民，將妻兒安置好在加拿大之後，起先他跟太太說，再拚一年，他便收手回「加」團聚，不再兩頭飛了。結果卻年復一年，到了第八年時，他才猛然發現，孩子已漸漸大了，孩子已將他當成客人。他並且想到，再這樣飛下去，他將永遠都享受不到與家人共同成長的樂趣。而且再不回來，也不必回來了，孩子都已快畢業成人， 他再也無法在與孩子的相處中，影響到孩子的人格發展了。
有些太太很鼓勵她們的先生繼續在台灣爲事業打拚。她們說，她們的先生在台灣的事業正日正當中。事業的成功、壯大，會帶給她們的先生對自己的肯定，會獲得事業開創的滿足與快樂。
但也有太太們認爲，該對老公說在台灣的奮鬥可以結束了，應回到加拿大來開創。可能在一個全新的環境裡從頭來起，起步會很慢，會很辛苦，尤其在語言、風俗、習慣、法令都陌生的情況下，開創更屬不易，但仍値得鼓勵先生去努力一下。
還有太太們指出，加拿大的汽車比台灣便宜一半，花園住宅更比台灣便宜太多太多。天下的財富是賺不完的，夠用就好了。她們也瞭解丈夫在台灣的苦、壓力之大，絕對不下於她們在溫哥華。
另有人指出，很多「太空人家庭」的太太，往往在很多事情上，對先生太過表現出她們堅強、獨立的一面。就有一位先生回到溫哥華時，太太不要先生開車，「你溫哥華不熟，我們接送你」。這會讓先生以爲家人留在溫哥華一切問題都沒有，可以放心地長期在台灣打拚。因而有太太們指出，每當先生回到溫哥華時，應表現出妻子柔弱的一面，才能讓丈夫時時以溫哥華爲念，對家的維繫應有更多的好處。
黃錦洲事件，太太們的結論是，要更關心丈夫，瞭解丈夫的壓力與痛苦，要能與丈夫心靈上有最好的溝通，這才是建立一個幸福家庭之道。
English translation: Report Two about the Impact of the Incident of Huang Jinzhou
By Wang Guangdian, Journalist of World Journal Vancouver
The Husband Flew Back and Forth, Maintaining the Business in Taiwan
The Father Missed His Children’s Developmental Years, which Impacted the Children’s Personality Development
Why did Huang Jinzhou, who was frustrated with his business, kill his family and commit suicide? The community members in Vancouver have various guesses. However, many people believe that the incident may indicate how risky it is to make money in Taiwan at the moment. Some wives whose husbands pursue their careers in Taiwan said that in the past they worried that their husbands might have another woman there. The Huang Jinzhou case has added another burden onto their hearts.
Many wives wonder if they should continue to let their husbands work in Taiwan for their careers or if they should ask them to return to Canada to live together with the family.
An early "flying father" said that he frequently flew back and forth for eight years across the Pacific Ocean. He knew the suffering of those "flying fathers." After the immigration was approved and his wife and children settled down in Canada, he first told his wife that he would work in Taiwan for another year. Then he would return to Canada to join his family and no longer fly back and forth. However, he travelled between the countries year after year. In the eighth year, he suddenly realized that his children had grown up gradually and treated him like a guest. He also thought that if he continued to fly back and forth like this, he would forever lose the opportunity to enjoy family life. And if he continued to stay in Taiwan, it became meaningless to return to Canada because his children might have graduated and become adults. He would lose the opportunity to be with his children and influence their personal growth.
Some wives encouraged their husbands to continue working in Taiwan. They said that their husbands’ careers in Taiwan are in the prime. The success and growth of their businesses will bring their husbands affirmation and self-satisfaction in the process.
But some wives think that the husbands should end their work in Taiwan and return to Canada to start new businesses. It may be very difficult to start from scratch in a brand new environment. It will be very hard, especially since they are not very familiar with the language, customs, habits, and regulations in Canada. But it is worthwhile to encourage their husbands to try.
Some wives pointed out that the cars in Canada are only half the price of cars in Taiwan. Houses with gardens homes are much cheaper than those in Taiwan. You cannot earn the whole wealth of the world. You should stop when there is enough for a good living. They also understand the bitterness and pressure that their husbands will encounter in Taiwan, definitely no less than what they experience in Vancouver.
Others pointed out that many wives of the “flying fathers” often only show their strong and independent side to their husband. When her husband returned to Vancouver, one woman insisted on driving by herself, saying, "you are not familiar with Vancouver, we will pick you up." This made the husband believe that his family was totally fine in Vancouver. He could work without any worries in Taiwan for a long time. Therefore, some wives said that they need to show their weak side when their husbands return to Vancouver. In this way, the husbands can keep thinking of his family in Vancouver. It will be beneficial for maintaining the family.
For the Huang Jinzhou case, the wives concluded that they should care more about their husbands, understand their husbands' pressure and have better communication with them. This is the way to build a happy family.
